For as long as I can remember, I’ve never been a big fan of Valentine’s Day. It’s just as horrendous and commercialized as Christmas. Every year it comes around I’m full on dreading it. Don’t even get me started on social media, especially Instagram, endless posts of couples either smooching it up with some stupid quote they either stole from the bible or Pinterest. And man does it drive me nuts. It’s even worse when you have a crush on someone and they’re in the midst of a fully-committed relationship (yes that is my current situation). Another thing that drives me nuts is the fact that every year, and I’m positive I’m not the only one who does this, I feel sorry for myself and waste my time crying watching sad romantic movies on Netflix. Well I say enough is enough. This year on Valentine’s Day, I’m choosing to love only one person: myself.
Yeah, you heard me. I’m going to pull a Hailee Steinfeld and love myself. Ever since the midst of junior and senior year, I’ve grown a lot as a person and my self-esteem has insanely improved. It isn’t quite perfect, but everything in life is a work-in progress. I confidently say I value my worth and feel as though I deserve the best of the best, as everyone else does. Along with deserving the best, I deserve all the love I have to give to myself. It’s cliché but it’s true: you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else. I learned that the hard way. High school and media has created this idiotic concept that it’s essential to be in a relationship, and that if you have no one to spend “love day” with you’re a loser. Well I’m taking a stand and saying that is WRONG!
Okay, sorry for yelling, but it’s true! Modern day society pushes this pressure to find someone in time for Valentine’s Day. Newsflash: there’s no pressure. It’s one day out of an entire year. Don’t stress. Don’t rush it. If you’re like me who’s going to be single this year on Valentine’s Day, it’s okay. Whether you’ve just gotten out of a relationship, you haven’t really dated in a while, or you’re just simply a lone wolf, it’s okay to be single on Valentine’s Day. This doesn’t make you pathetic, a loser, or a loner. Speaking of losers and loners, have you heard Lonesome Loser by Little River Band? Great song. I’m getting off topic aren’t I? Sorry. Anyways, the bottom line is, being single on Valentine’s Day isn’t so bad. Think of this as a chance to self-reflect, go the extra mile to do something special for yourself, spoil a loved one, because life’s too short to tell the people you love that that you love them while they can still hear you (I fully credit Grey’s Anatomy on that one).
Loving yourself is such a beautiful thing. As I’ve said, it’s a work in progress, but today I’m saying no to the tears and sappy romantic flicks, and yes to love and positive vibes all around, because as Ariana Grande sings it, I’ve got no tears left to cry. Buy that hoodie you’ve had your eye on for a while. Make yourself your favourite warm soup. Listen to your favourite songs that lift you up to the stars. Put yourself first. Not because I’m telling you to do so, but because you deserve it. Today and every day. Happy Valentine’s Day.